AGE & GAY CYCLE

I am 30 years old currently. It is almost 30% of my life has been spent. I have just divided my life in various age categories and done the analysis of my gay behaviour.. .Below written article is only as per my thoughts. I have not done any research for this. This is based on my experience with gays of different age groups.
Under 16 yrs. :
Curious! Guys under 16 gets initiated in gay sex, either by force, or by curiosity. For 80% of the people i have met till date, it was either some friend or someone in family who forced them into it. I was also intiated by one of my cousin. That cousin is now married..to a girl... and i am still here looking for my soulmate.
16 yrs - 20 yrs :
This is the age, when a guy wants to WIN THE WORLD.. and what better way to do it but sexually. Irrespective of him being bottom or top, he wants to lure people, loves the attention of other gays, and feels on top of the world, by exploring his sexual energies. Unfortunately, i never had any gay sex during that time, apart from having it with my another straight cousin.
20yrs - 25yrs :
Experimental! This is the time, when the experiments starts for most of the gay guys. Vanila moves and give way to chocolate, kinky, bondage and what else. Guy is free to experiment with his sexuality. He doesn't have any responsibility and can spend most of his time experimenting with all his one night stands. Yes i have my share of kinky sex too..
25 yrs - 35 yrs :
It is around 25 + of age, a guy starts looking for more than just a one night stand. He is looking for a friend, preferably a long term relationship. Now he wants to enjoy the companionship as well, and sex is not the only criteria. Here i am looking for a relationship, a meaningful relationship.
35 yrs - 50yrs :
Feelings of this age group of people can be divided under two headings
1. Understanding
2. Desparation
Understanding of self, of gay relationships, of world in general starts taking place at this age. Guys get more philosophical. Also the work pressure and interaction with other people, carve them as more responsible people. They either take refuge in their work, or they try working for bigger causes, forgetting the angst of being a lonely gay.
But this is the age group, where desparation also starts. The body needs intimacy, and an old guy without a companion can be desparate to do anything for it. Here comes our sugar daddy, mature bottoms who can agree to anything, seductors, and also perhaps this desparation can lead to easy targets which results in molestation and seduction of young guys..
50 yrs - 60yrs :
UNDERSTANDING!The gays of this age group are much more understanding. They have seen the world. Had there share of sex, and thrills. Now it is the time, to spend with few friends who have been earned during the lifetime.
60 yrs Above :
Life's beautiful phase depends you spend it alone or with your dear one.
I wish.. i have someone to spend this time of 60 yrs and above. the time when i am free to enjoy the remaining years of my life. When i am far from the day today responsibilities and worries.

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Difference between Gay and Hetro Relationship

I have some basic observations regarding relationships, which i need to share it with you. I dont know if it is appropriate to compare a hetro and a gay relationship.. but let me take liberty to do so.

1. As far as i think, a hetro relationship's basis is compatibility - which definitely involves sexual compatibility too....IN gay relationship also the basis is copatibility - BUT It is only sexual compatibility.. Thats the start point.

2. In hetro relationships, we have a societal pressure to continue with the relationship. In gay relations, we have a societal pressure to break the relationship, as society does not confirm to the idea of having gay relationship.

3. In hetro relationship, one is so pompous and showy for his/her companion.In gay relationship, if you are not out, you prefer being silent about your companion in front of your family and friends.

4. In hetro relations, if you are not sexually compatible, still relationships continue.. yes the man may be satisfying himself somewhere else and the women satisfying herself someplace else.In gay relationship, if we have an attitude of ... if we are not happy on BED.. then go off from my life.

5. In hetro life, when we are bounded with one, we prefer staying with that person.Where as in gay life, we are not bounded to anyone, it is only our own will to be bounded.. But then there are so many options and the MAN does not have enough willpower..Dont you remember it was adam only , who ate the apple and the whole sex thing started...

But yes.. its us who need to improve the reality of gay relationships... Its easy to stand on the shore and comment on it. Its different to be in the sea and fighting with waves..

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HAPPY SINGLE GAY

Really.. can a single gay be happy?

I dont know, but very soon i will get to know this fact...I am single, I am gay, and am i happy. I dont know.

What i know is, i am workaholic. and thats where i love to spend my most time. So i do not feel lack of companionship in my life. But yes, sometimes you feel loneliness. You feel yourself too alone, in this world.

And here this net is helping me. I am looking forward to make some new friends. With whom i can spend my days, when i will have a bush of silver strands on my head.

I am emotional right now, so cant write much. But yes i do not want to spend my life as SINGLE GAY. but do i have any option????

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GAY Relationships - how feasible it is?

I have been into two gay relationships and several short affairs. I started my active gay life when i was 24 and now i am 30. I have my doubts, if gay relationships are feasible.

1. Many gay men, prefer so called straight men who are not at all interested in any relationship, they are only and IF they really are interested in experimenting with gay sex for sometime.



2. Gay relationships are based on personal commitments only, there is no social pressure or compulsion to continue with the relationship. Hence the commitments are shortlived. Even a personal commitment needs the support of society to cultivate a relationship.



3. Gay men are emotionally weak, and need emotional stability. It is difficult for a emotionally weak person himself, to provide emotional support to other gay guy for long.



4. Relationships based only on sex, fade out with time. Any relationship requires a mix of all the flavours of life. Good, bad, stinking.... everything has to be experienced together. What is the fun in just having a relationship, which is not more than being fuck buddies.



5. 90% of indian gays are closet. In this scenario, it is very difficult for them to maintain a relatinship, which requires a lot of time, understanding and patience.




Still 75% of gays would love to be in a steady relationship.


Everybody longs for heaven.. but it is upto us to create a heaven here itself..

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Art of kissing

Kiss is an art. It is the initiation of any relationship. In its most gentle manner, it is a way to greet people.

I love kissing.. from just a peck on the cheek to kiss on lips, to deep toungue smooching, to eating lips.

Recently i met a guy who is a great kisser. I can spend whole evening kissing him. This is for you my dear beloved. Kissing you all over.


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Roses for my beloved

I really felt today, if and only if someone would have been in my life. I would have loved him like anything.

Here is a video for my beloved, where ever he is. As of now, it is the guy, with whom i spent my evening.

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Am i suffering from Erectile Dysfunctioning

Today was a big day. Approximately three weeks back i met a guy over the net. We were very friendly with each other. Very talkative, always had something to talk to. We never faced a moment when we are saying "ahhhhhh" or we are silent.. or we are thinking "so what else".



We decide to meet today, as he had place. I know i was not ready for the sex, but still i went ahead. It was very nice on the way we were talking...talking .... and talking... At his home also we talked of so many things...




And then i really get turned on.. He is 5'3, very cute, pink lips, fair, slim. And i was like in love with him. I pulled him near me, and we kissed and kissed and kissed..... and then i removed his t shirt and he removed my shirt and vest. We kissed, we caressed. It was going great.... And then came the moment when we removed our trousers...




And blub...blub...blub.... I didnt get a hard on. He tried his best but unfortunately i didnt get it. I dont know why. He felt bad, he was looking forward to a great evening which went BAD because of me. I know he would be having sex with some other guy right now. And i am not feeling bad for it, cause someone else is enjoying the passion which was ignited by me. BUT i am scared.... AM I SUFFERING FROM ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION......




I dont know, i know last time when it happened, i was not excited at all, but today i was.. this love making session could have been one of my best one.. But then it just got ruined.. I dont even know if i ever met that guy again or not. I have seen a dissapointment on his face. And i was so ashamed....




But i would like to tell you my dear sweet guy... YOU are one of the guys, with whom i would love to spend my life. I would love to give you everything, physically, emotionally, personally.




When i came back i discussed this with another of my good friend. He told me that it can be a phase only, so not to panic. But I AM..... believe me I AM...




Hope i get some cured...soon...

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My first video on you tube

Dear All,

I have created my first video for promotion of this blog. The video is already posted on you tube. You can see the same video here too... And by the way it is my real pictures.


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Think Hatke

Indians are coming of age.
Can you ever imagine a girl coming on your 21 inches television, in front of your complete family and announcing that " SHE is not interested in guys."

Though, the underline of this ad is that the girl get her way to agree her parents agreed about her Goa trip. Still... it shows so many things about the indian society.

1. Acknowledgment of existence of GAYs ( including lesbians)
2. Today's Generation accepting their new sexuality in front of their parents.
3. Parents reacting calmly only, they have not started crying and saying their girl/boy has gone mad.

It also show some negatives about todays society.
1. Girls still cant go out on trips with their male friends.2. Girls still need to make excuses for doing the things they enjoy.


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Five sexy things to do with your boyfriend...apart from having sex

  • Foot Massage.
  • Back rub specially the neck and lower back.
  • Caressing with light fingers, such as your fingers are feathers.
  • Nimbling on the ear.
  • Caressing his inner thighs, and making him horny ;).
All the above mentioned, you can practice to make him more horny and ready for sex, or you can also do it gently when you guys are only in a romantic mood.

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Correct Ad of Mountain Dew - Indian version

डर सबको लगता है
गांड सबकी फटती है
MOUNTAIN DEW.... आपकी फटी गांड का साथी


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One of my Best Gay Friends marriage

I met this guy in the month of October 07 in CP. I had seen his picture earlier, and i dont know why he looked like a little mature guy. I was on my scooter, i parked it and met this guy near Mc Donalds. My.... He was not the most handsome dude.. but yes, he was just my time.

  • Height : 5'6"
  • Round Face
  • Slim
  • Clean shaven.


Very huggable, cutie, and very next door kind of a guy.


He told me that generally, all the guys whom he meet, get engaged and married to girls.. So it was my turn this time. But NO!... life had some different surprise. And this time he got engaged. and now he is going to get married soon.


Today we met after appx. four months, but we didnt have any bitter feelings for anyone. We even hugged. Given an opportunity i would have loved to kiss him, but he was in my office. I couldnt do...


My heartiest congratulations to him on his marriage. And he has told me that even after his marriage, our relationship will continue. Though in last six months we have slept together just once. But still we are very close to each other emotionally.


And i think thats what friendships are like.

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Necessity of sex in gay relationship

Have you ever heard , "... yes i agree, you are the sweetest person i have ever met but we are not sexually compatible. I am sorry but its not working out, lets move forward..." If you have not, you are a damn lucky dude. Unfortunately i am not so lucky. In this post of mine, i am exploring the importance and necessity of sex in gay relationship.



Find below the definition of the term "GAY" from http://www.wikipedia.org/

"The use of gay to mean "homosexual" was in origin merely an extension of the word's sexualised connotation of "carefree and uninhibited", which implied a willingness to disregard conventional or respectable sexual mores. Such usage is documented as early as the 1920s. It was initially more commonly used to imply heterosexually unconstrained lifestyles, as for example in the once-common phrase "gay Lothario",[3] or in the title of the book and film The Gay Falcon (1941), which concerns a womanizing detective whose first name is "Gay".

Look up gay in Wiktionary, the free dictionary.
Well into the mid 20th century a middle-aged bachelor could be described as "gay" without any implication of homosexuality. This usage could apply to women too. The British comic strip Jane was first published in the 1930s and described the adventures of Jane Gay. Far from implying homosexuality, it referred to her freewheeling lifestyle with plenty of boyfriends (while also punning on Lady Jane Grey)."



Below are the excerpts from the same site, http://www.wikipedia.org/ about the term relationship
"A relationship is a specific connection between objects, entities or concepts. Typical forms of relationship are social relationships between people, causal relationships between events, and mathematical or theoretical relationships between components of a modelled system.
Various terms built upon the basic concept of relationship are used in different fields."




Hence a gay relationship mean much more than just the sexual relationship between two individuals of same sex. Though homosexual has much more emphasise on the sexual orientation of a person, but FOR ME a gay relationship means an uninhibited association of people of same sex.


I would love to be in a relationship, where the people are much more interested in sipping a cup of coffee and discussing your inner most feelings. Where i can see a movie with another guy, just holding hand. Where i can discuss, not only mushy mushy things with my friend but also the problems in my life, irrespective of it being career related, or family related or friends related or related to my sexuality.


Why it is necessary to have a hard dick to embrace my gay friend who is more than just a friend.

I have seen gay relationships of two kinds only.
1. a relationship where complete sex is involved,
2. or one, where there is NO sex involved.

I could not understand why we can not have any middle path. I am not asking for an open relationship. I am neither asking for free for sex kind of a community but i am asking for a relationship with a friend, where i am comfortable being naked with him, inspite of knowing that we are not going around. And i do not want it to happen once only, else it will be one night stand.

I want my gay friends to be comfortable enough with me, wherein i can give a body massage to my friend, irrespective of having a sexual urge. Where we can also discuss about other gay men we have been with but we dont mind getting comfortable with each other.

Yes the above sounds confusing.. and complex.. so is life... and so is gay guy...

Will be looking forward to your comments on it. Till then, keep yagging.

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7 ways to get the guy you want

Here are the seven ways to get the guy you want
1. Clear about your desire/ need :
What are you looking for? Just a sex mate, a hook up for one night or a soulmate for lifetime. Be clear about your needs - to yourself as well as to the other person. If you meet a person, without being clear about your needs, you may well end up with a confuse state.
Perhaps you will think about him as a soulmate on day one, but he turns out to be only one night stand, I am sure you will feel hurt. So if you are looking for a soulmate, talk to him, understand him before going to bed.
If you are looking only for a sex mate, then be sure you use condoms while enjoying on the bed, or may be outside, if you guys are little more than plain vanila.
2. Socialize:
There is life beyond your work too. Socialize with a capital S. Till the time, you dont meet people, how will you find the right guy for you. You need to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince dear. No one will come and knock on your door, just for you. Herea are a few ways to socialize
  • Visit networking sites.
  • Meet people in clubs, through friends.
  • Talking to people in public transport is another innovative way to socialize.
  • Join hobby classes.
3. Be genuinely interested in other people
Not only MEN, but other wise too, people do notice, if you are saying hello to them just for the sake of it or if you are really interested in them. If you really care, be genuinely interested in other men. I am sure other men will be genuinely interested in you as well. It is the universal law, you get what you give.
4. Look for Good things in others
BE POSITIVE. (Not HIV +ve stupid! LOL) Try to find out good things in others and appreciate the same. Tell them, how much you like it and rather help them in making it better. Lets say you like a guy who has a very good body, you should not only tell him about his good physique but help him in his endeavour to develp a great body. May be you can tell about a better physical trainer or even a better pair of shoes which he can wear to the gym.
5.Be the guy yourself, you want:
You are looking for a drop dead gorgeous guy. 90% of handsome hunks would like to hang around with other handsome hunks as well. Hence you need to be smart enough.
  • Hit a gym,
  • Change your wardrobe,
  • Go to a hairstylist
I am sure, you will be more noticeable to your kind of guys, if you yourself is like them.
6. Hygiene
Please. Please. Please. Shower daily! change your clothes, specially inner clothes. if you are not maintaining a moustache or beard properly then please shave before meeting the guy. Use good deodorant and never forget to wear a smile.
99% of guys won't like a guy smelling of cum. Though i dont mind it if i am in kinky mood ;)
7. Have Faith
I am not asking you to be religious, but be spiritual for sure. Just have faith and keep hanging, you will definitely get your kind of person, sooner or later. It is only a matter of time. You can obviously pray too. It has a lot of power. Think and imagine the kind of guy you would like to be with , and the universal forces will help you in achieving the same.

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