Necessity of sex in gay relationship
Have you ever heard , "... yes i agree, you are the sweetest person i have ever met but we are not sexually compatible. I am sorry but its not working out, lets move forward..." If you have not, you are a damn lucky dude. Unfortunately i am not so lucky. In this post of mine, i am exploring the importance and necessity of sex in gay relationship.
Find below the definition of the term "GAY" from http://www.wikipedia.org/
"The use of gay to mean "homosexual" was in origin merely an extension of the word's sexualised connotation of "carefree and uninhibited", which implied a willingness to disregard conventional or respectable sexual mores. Such usage is documented as early as the 1920s. It was initially more commonly used to imply heterosexually unconstrained lifestyles, as for example in the once-common phrase "gay Lothario",[3] or in the title of the book and film The Gay Falcon (1941), which concerns a womanizing detective whose first name is "Gay".
Look up gay in Wiktionary, the free dictionary.
Well into the mid 20th century a middle-aged bachelor could be described as "gay" without any implication of homosexuality. This usage could apply to women too. The British comic strip Jane was first published in the 1930s and described the adventures of Jane Gay. Far from implying homosexuality, it referred to her freewheeling lifestyle with plenty of boyfriends (while also punning on Lady Jane Grey)."
Look up gay in Wiktionary, the free dictionary.
Well into the mid 20th century a middle-aged bachelor could be described as "gay" without any implication of homosexuality. This usage could apply to women too. The British comic strip Jane was first published in the 1930s and described the adventures of Jane Gay. Far from implying homosexuality, it referred to her freewheeling lifestyle with plenty of boyfriends (while also punning on Lady Jane Grey)."
"A relationship is a specific connection between objects, entities or concepts. Typical forms of relationship are social relationships between people, causal relationships between events, and mathematical or theoretical relationships between components of a modelled system.
Various terms built upon the basic concept of relationship are used in different fields."
Various terms built upon the basic concept of relationship are used in different fields."
Hence a gay relationship mean much more than just the sexual relationship between two individuals of same sex. Though homosexual has much more emphasise on the sexual orientation of a person, but FOR ME a gay relationship means an uninhibited association of people of same sex.
I would love to be in a relationship, where the people are much more interested in sipping a cup of coffee and discussing your inner most feelings. Where i can see a movie with another guy, just holding hand. Where i can discuss, not only mushy mushy things with my friend but also the problems in my life, irrespective of it being career related, or family related or friends related or related to my sexuality.
Why it is necessary to have a hard dick to embrace my gay friend who is more than just a friend.
I have seen gay relationships of two kinds only.
1. a relationship where complete sex is involved,
2. or one, where there is NO sex involved.
I could not understand why we can not have any middle path. I am not asking for an open relationship. I am neither asking for free for sex kind of a community but i am asking for a relationship with a friend, where i am comfortable being naked with him, inspite of knowing that we are not going around. And i do not want it to happen once only, else it will be one night stand.
I want my gay friends to be comfortable enough with me, wherein i can give a body massage to my friend, irrespective of having a sexual urge. Where we can also discuss about other gay men we have been with but we dont mind getting comfortable with each other.
Yes the above sounds confusing.. and complex.. so is life... and so is gay guy...
Will be looking forward to your comments on it. Till then, keep yagging.
interesting to read, I also like such view, free to be naked with a friend is essential
anand said... February 21, 2011 at 9:29 AM
Thanks ananda,
Yes i believe, being naked with a friend, removes all inhibitions, and open a different aspect of your relationship.
Unknown said... April 19, 2011 at 12:47 AM
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